Ep #9 Lies We Believe: Exposing the mindsets that limit growth

Mindsets are the basis from which our thoughts are formed. Your mindset is responsible for how you come to conclusions and often, for the thoughts you think. So what happens when we have a negative mindset that Is so believable?

We unearth them. In this episode I share three limiting beliefs I discovered where holding me back and how I was able to get rid of them.

 

You don’t just get to change your mindset., you have to unearth it and replace it with the truth.

 

1. It Is Not Supposed To Be This Way.

This was a mindset I inherited from a friend. I spent so much time listening to her that I started to think like her! Rejecting the circumstance you find yourself in and going in search of a ‘better’ one will take you off course. Consider the possibility that you are simply on a rocky portion of your journey. My remedy for this lie is a question: What is it is supposed to be this way? What would you do?

 

 

2. If Only… Then...

The 'if only then' mindset will have you chasing the things you are convinced you need, instead of simply following your own path. A single woman who believes her unhappiness will be resolved by a husband focus on the search of that mr right- when he may have been hidden by the pile of rubble in front of her. When I went through my stormy season, I said a lot of if only’s. If only I could redo the few months before the recession hit. If only I had done this that or the other. I found such fantasies to be really good at helping me escape my harsh reality, but really bad at making my dreams come true. If only, then, keeps you tethered to the spot as you wait for a new, better set of circumstances to emerge before you take that step.

 

The truth that turns that lie on its head is a principle that goes beyond this episode and deserves its own. Its one I call the indifference of a situation. This principle says that circumstances are neither good nor bad. They just are. Its like being born male or female, black or white. Neither is good or bad. Neither is better than the other. But choosing to see your situation as indifferent and even powerless to change itself, gives you the confidence to make the changes. 

 

3. The third lie we believe is I must follow the beaten path

I have had weird and wacky business ideas which I didn’t act on because no one else had done it. I believed there was a template I needed to follow so if my ideas were too unique, then it must not be valid. If this is you, stop. This mindset is lethal to dreams because if you happen to be surrounded by the wrong people, such as a friend who shares the same limiting beliefs as you, he or she will encourage you to follow the beaten path. It is also rooted in insecurity.

 

Here’s the Truth You need to know: You are a uniquely created being inspired by God. In other words, God had a dream and you came true. The practice of authentic living has been the single most impactful principle in my life to date. The day I understood that I was unique and different from every other person was the day I met the real Toks.

 

At the baby cot shop most of our products are individually made to order. So when you purchase a cot bed, you must be prepared to wait for anywhere from 8 to 12 weeks. However, when you receive your furniture, you will be pleasantly surprised. The quality is unmatched. The reason it takes so long is because full attention is paid to each individual piece. We have a range that is carved by hand. This means no two pieces are identical. Now compare that to high street brands. Their cots are mass produced in a country far- far away and each piece is identical to the next one. 

 

Here’s the truth: You are a beautiful, work of art. An original that cannot be copied. Did you know that you were not part of a mass production but made individually by hand? God set aside time to craft you. Your thoughts, personality, and ideas are yours alone. No one else thinks like you. Your fingerprint is proof of your one-of-a-kindness.

 

When I sat down to list the mindsets that I had recognised as limiting, I stopped counting when I got to fifteen. But I’ll share three more in Episode #10.